SELF  ACCEPTANCE  AND   IRONY . 

 

Okay so randomly scrolling down the social media posts i realized that there are people immensely “promoting” self acceptance these days and that’s a great thing but here i will like to emphasize the word promoting and not actually understanding or accepting it..haven’t we all crossed such messages :

“Learn to accept your flaws . Stopping trying to fit in . you are unique in your own way. just be yourself. let people see the real, imperfect,flawed , quirky , weird person you are.

Such motivational thoughts.

But then we actually meet these people, saying such beautiful things online .These people nowadays are collectively known as the society . Well, welcome to the society.

Be yourself they say but in the right way please. .

You can fall in love with anyone they say but the way, sex, race is who we choose .

Don’t try to fit in they say,  but we wont include you as you are either.

Everyone has a right to have their own opinion they say but please shape them to their views .

And mind you there’s no escape to this at all.

Nor this meaning is understood by us nor accepted by society. Commenting that you support such ideologies have basically become a trend . And ah wait! I have my personal favorite among these :

” #flawisthenewflawless.”

It sure sounds cool… but here,  i highly disagree . Is this self acceptance? accepting everything you have? is it?

For example lets consider i gained 15 pound today , so i should accept the  fact that i m going to be this way , this is who i m and move on in life? for me it isn’t when you don’t want to change anything about yourself be it the bad or the good habits , it is not one being rebellious and covering up the bad habits in the name of self acceptance.

It is not being lazy even after acknowledging that this, that you have  definitely isn’t the best of you .

We associate good things with the negative stuff very easily , isn’t it?

Its more like accepting yourself acknowledging all your flaws and assets and having the courage and knowledge to change it .  I mean doesn’t self acceptance and self knowledge go hand in hand?

I think, its okay to still wish that your body looked different or your voice sounded better . You are not hopeless . Don’t feel bad for wishing  to be better .

I see nothing wrong in wanting something better and believing that we have the capabilities to achieve the same?

But wanting this because of the peer pressure , and fear of nobody liking you is dangerous.

And wont it be devastating if we don’t use our full potential?

Because the curious paradox is when you accept yourself that’s when the urge to change arrives .

You see it isn’t a matter of either you accept yourself or you continue growing, you can feel good about who you are today with the knowledge that this is not the “final product,” that you will continue growing and striving to create an even better version of you in the future.

And then finally a day will come when you will exhale and say:“finally….“