Causeria – casual talks

Everybody has some something that they have been hearing or are being accused of since childhood. Well as for me, I grew up hearing the phrase “you never stick with anything, what’s the point” a lot.

Now here i have no clue how many of you all will relate to this, but I’ve always been fascinated towards seemingly disconnected interests.

And gone through phases of being really into something, being really, obsessed with a thing for a certain period of time and then suddenly loosing all my interest in it . Because no matter how hard i tried holding on to something , eventually my interest would fade and I would move onto something else.

Now with this habit of mine i was certainly a prey of many barbs , with every abandoned endeavor I was told I needed to stop starting the things if I wasn’t sure about and find something i really liked and continue the same. Because whats the point of wasting time and money picking up these random interests and abandoning them after a year? Sounds such a waste of resources rite?

But how an i suppose to know what i really like without actually trying them once?

But anyway , eventually under the guidance of my brain, who suggested me the most logically and practical thing to do was to stop picking things up. I told myself “what’s the point, I’m going to give up in a year anyway”.

In this way of course i was left with no resources of knowing if my interest was “real” enough or just another passing phase , i started diminishing them. And things just kept piling up.

Now I realize that my interest for the old thing didn’t fade so much as my interest for something new out shined it, and that’s vastly different.

And now that i think of it, that was some poppycock thinking.

Okay so i didn’t practice that skill i took last year for a long time. Did i become proficient in it? of course not it takes a long time to master any skill. But That’s one more year of the skill than most people I know. And in that year I learned discipline, I learned something new that i wouldn’t have if it wasn’t for this .

And over time this is what i learnt:

Skills carry over. They intersect and connect in ways that are sometimes unexpected. Nothing is ever lost, experience is never a waste of time or worthless or stupid. Allow your focus to wander, reflect on what you learn, and consider how you can keep using it in other aspects of your life.

Also  can we Stop telling people their interests aren’t worth their time??